Practice6 min
Repair after conflict
Returning to each other after a rupture.
- 1Settle firstRepair rarely works while either person is still activated.
- 2Name your part in itSpecific, and without a general confession.
- 3Say what you were protectingOften the more useful information.
- 4Ask what it was like for themAnd let the answer land before responding.
- 5Agree one small thingFor next time — small enough to actually happen.
You might explore these in your own words — there is no right answer, and stopping partway is completely fine.